Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

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People tend to be most afraid of admitting two feelings: being afraid of someone or not liking someone. Drawing on the success of her popular self-help book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Dr. Thank you audible for having us in your library this book has shown me so much about myself and my family structure.

In the past she has served as an adjunct assistant professor of graduate psychology for the College of William and Mary, as well as for Old Dominion University. I listened to a chapter at a time so that I could integrate and reflect on my own personal feelings. You have a unique, trustworthy true Self inside that guides your growth with its still, small voice. This book has genuinely helped me get one step closer to being healed and I would highly recommend this to any adult as even small problems in childhood can have massive and lasting impacts on our adult pysche.

As a child, your emotional needs were not met, your feelings were dismissed, and you likely took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior.

Parentification: The child becomes more emotionally mature than the parent feeling like they have to care for the parents instead of the other way around. They are either too controlling or don’t care at all: Immature parents are at the extremes of the control spectrum. With over 6 million of the world’s best eBooks to choose from, Kobo offers you a whole world of reading.I like that the text was able to both discuss the effect of a lack of emotional maturity of parents on their grown children as well as discussing emotional maturity in general. People come into therapy for a whole bunch of reasons, but they rarely come in saying -- I need better ways to cope with having had an emotionally immature parent. Their main sources of anxiety are feeling guilty when they displease others and the fear of being exposed as imposters.

Their life energy has been devoted to creating a defensive facade that protects them from emotional vulnerability with other people. Their defenses are kept high to prevent others from getting close enough to threaten their unstable sense of self-worth. People who are emotionally immature only feel good about themselves when they can get other people to give them what they want and to act like they think they should. You will be shown how to reclaim your mental and emotional freedom, and how to build a new self-concept based on your adult qualities and increased self-awareness.

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